After all these years, I finally fell into the arms of vulnerability and compassion for self. Six months ago, I found myself telling my now partner all the reasons he wouldn’t want to date me. I am needy; I will want him around all the time; I will be emotional for no reason; and I went very far with this statement. It was then that he looked me in the eyes and said, “it’s good and I am here.” Immediately, I fell hard and got really grounded.
Now, I knew those weren’t my traits. Yet I thought if I give this guy worst case scenario, I finally have permission for some imperfection. I really believe this is one of the reasons I am in a blissful relationship. For the first time, I got so raw to the point of pretty much saying “here is why I suck.” Yet, based on the loving response I got, I wanted to give love. And just having that space to sometimes fall or let someone else wear the cape is something I have always wanted. It’s the type of thing that I didn’t know what I had until it landed right in front of me.
For the first time in my life, I can talk to someone about a bad day or bad moment or get really real without the stickiness of it lasting. Admitting when I need help, admitting when I feel so completely done with life or the day, and getting over it fast because I am being heard.
In the past, I would go into freeze mode when I got overwhelmed – hold it in and get sick. Neurosculpting® has taught me that it is better to go into a state of action rather then freeze. I am giving myself permission to do just that. Finding compassion for myself and in a moment of stress asking myself, ‘What can I do to take really good care of myself right now?” And then doing it!
This vulnerability has opened up the door to self-compassion too. The ripple has gone even deeper into the legacy I want to leave in the world and the importance of continuing to shine my light and serve.
So as much as the ego would like to tell everyone why we are so great, sometimes admitting to ‘here is why you may not want me’ upfront can call in the right partner and community.
My grandmother, who is now passed, once said “if you want perfection, go to the cemetery.” For more information about how to become more vulnerable and compassionate, visit www.neurosculptinginsititute.com.
Kelley Seriano, CNSF
While managing her 19 year corporate career, through extensive education and commitment to the study of Neurosculpting, Kelley lives her best life. Kelley is certified in facilitating Neurosculpting Meditation, Yoga, Pilates, Barre, Cycle and Dance. Kelley is part of a Dance company while freelancing this work in her spare time. She’s is also a writer and has a passion for fashion and art. One of Kelley’s greatest joys is helping other people achieve stronger mental health and balance in there lives. She does this by sharing her gift of dedication and insight into overall mind and body health.