Our prefrontal cortex regulates attention and thoughts with vast amounts of neural connections and a system of arousal and neurotransmitters. If we take no action, our default system may favor excessive stress response and disease. Science proved that focused attention and a perceived sense of control manipulates these connections and overrides stress and disease. Each time you feel “why me?” ask yourself instead, “what did I contribute to this?”. Then take responsibility by recognizing it, and then by creating a new story. This exercises the prefrontal cortex and sculpts neural connections with the right balance of norepinephrine and dopamine. YOU are in control of YOUR stories.